Bailing out before season ends....

labanLB

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To all the parents looking to switch their ulittle to another team before the season is over, good job teaching your kids to cur out before the season ends. It's freakin ulittle soccer not college soccer.
 
It really is no big deal. Even with college soccer and the pros, people switch all the time. Why stay in an unhappy situation if you don't want to and why force it on a little if they are not happy. I have bought projects, started them, not what I envisioned and then tossed them. Sometimes its not worth it and the benefits outweigh. Cut your losses.
 
To all the parents looking to switch their ulittle to another team before the season is over, good job teaching your kids to cur out before the season ends. It's freakin ulittle soccer not college soccer.
Wait doesn't season end after Thanksgiving?
 
It really is no big deal. Even with college soccer and the pros, people switch all the time. Why stay in an unhappy situation if you don't want to and why force it on a little if they are not happy. I have bought projects, started them, not what I envisioned and then tossed them. Sometimes its not worth it and the benefits outweigh. Cut your losses.

You are missing the point LBSoccer. This isn't college or the pros. What parents are teaching their kids is bail when things aren't going their way. Sounds like you are a part of the problem of this new generation. Bail when the ish get rough. How to be a coward 101.
 
Says who? maybe your club who wants to lock in its paying customers, but CalSouth says it ends after thanksgiving which is why players can freely transfer after. They are the governing body and if it wasn't Ok they wouldn't allow it.
Bingo! Club may have it in their contracts but we all know those contracts can't be held up if anyone decides to leave
 
I think parents should have their children finish out the year which to me ends with State Cup. With that said clubs should also wait to have tryouts until after the season and also not invite new players onto the team for State Cup. We shouldn’t hold parents to a standard the clubs themselves will not follow.
 
I don't think League sees it that way unfortunately.

Says who? maybe your club who wants to lock in its paying customers, but CalSouth says it ends after thanksgiving which is why players can freely transfer after. They are the governing body and if it wasn't Ok they wouldn't allow it.

I understand CalSouth transfer rule. I'm talking on principle, but I guess that just shows how youth soccer as a whole is messed up.
 
I understand CalSouth transfer rule. I'm talking on principle, but I guess that just shows how youth soccer as a whole is messed up.
I have always told my kids you will always finish what you start. However, there are also always “extenuating circumstances” (bullies, problematic coaches, etc) that would be addressed as such. So I’m ahort I agree with you. However, like you said, it is youth soccer so my question is, what happened to piss you off so much?
 
You are missing the point LBSoccer. This isn't college or the pros. What parents are teaching their kids is bail when things aren't going their way. Sounds like you are a part of the problem of this new generation. Bail when the ish get rough. How to be a coward 101.
It's got you all worked up. Relax. It's just littles soccer. Bail when it gets rough? Nah but I have seen kids get screwed over in more ways than one just because they stuck around in a bad situation because of people that reacted the way you are. They later regretted it and said they should have left sooner. I'm just saying sometimes its not worth it to stick around.
 
You are missing the point LBSoccer. This isn't college or the pros. What parents are teaching their kids is bail when things aren't going their way. Sounds like you are a part of the problem of this new generation. Bail when the ish get rough. How to be a coward 101.
The kids aren't the ones who scheduled tryouts a month or two prior to State Cup.
 
The kids aren't also the ones who have turned low level soccer into a year round affair.
Sorry but if my son wants to play baseball or lacrosse or water polo or even golf goodbye.
Clubs stopped caring about families along time ago save me the righteous act.
 
To all the parents looking to switch their ulittle to another team before the season is over, good job teaching your kids to cur out before the season ends. It's freakin ulittle soccer not college soccer.

Why on God’s green flat earth would YOU...an adult...care if a little kid goes to play on another team? Is this some high moral stand you are taking?? Nope. You are that parent on the sideline with the passive aggressive snarky comments to the refs and other little kids...”good job teaching your kids” lines when you mean the opposite. Haha grow up and learn to use direct speech not snarky sarcastic valley girl rants on a forum.

The truth is your state cup dreams have been dashed by the actions of another parent who moved thier kid. Just be honest...you are throwing a tantrum...Remember it’s ulittle soccer. It’s not that serious.
 
Why on God’s green flat earth would YOU...an adult...care if a little kid goes to play on another team? Is this some high moral stand you are taking?? Nope. You are that parent on the sideline with the passive aggressive snarky comments to the refs and other little kids...”good job teaching your kids” lines when you mean the opposite. Haha grow up and learn to use direct speech not snarky sarcastic valley girl rants on a forum.

The truth is your state cup dreams have been dashed by the actions of another parent who moved thier kid. Just be honest...you are throwing a tantrum...Remember it’s ulittle soccer. It’s not that serious.

I remember our 2nd year of club soccer. Daughter was ready to move on and attended a try out during the same month as state cup. We were upfront with the coach and told him were looking and our daughter would be moving on after state cup ended. Next game he benched her and right before game started pulled her aside along with the other two girls going elsewhere and asked them if they knew why they weren't starting. They did know, they were 10, ulittles. He had already told us he would bench her and would focus on the girls staying on the team. We thought we were doing the right thing by letting him know. The following season we stay on through state cup and spring. During spring kids start making choices to go elsewhere. We weren't sure if we would stay or move on because the team was changing after each practice and we let coach know. Again she is pulled from her starter spot with the reason being Coach will focus on players who have committed to team. This was at u11 (different coach). We learned there is not really any loyalty or commitment to anyone other than your kid and your family and sometimes it is better if you don't take the "moral road".
 
It's got you all worked up. Relax. It's just littles soccer. Bail when it gets rough? Nah but I have seen kids get screwed over in more ways than one just because they stuck around in a bad situation because of people that reacted the way you are. They later regretted it and said they should have left sooner. I'm just saying sometimes its not worth it to stick around.

Sometimes it is just better to leave. The only loyalty that you need to have is to your own child. Unfortunately 95% of all clubs/coaches will do whatever is in their best interest. Do what is in your player's best interest especially at the younger ages. They are the most critical. If my daughter had stayed on her first club team I doubt that she would be playing D1 soccer now and clearly not because of her ability.

I pulled my player from her first club team 2 weeks into the league season due to the coach not holding up her end of the bargain. I told all the parents and that coach a month ahead of time if things don't change we weren't going to wait until the season ended and that they would be giving us a full refund. We got the refund, she moved to a team in the same division and proceeded to kick her old teams a$$ the couple of times that they played them that year.
 
Sometimes a situation is toxic for a child, especially a ulittle. There are some cruel coaches that exist. There are some younger teammates and/or parents that are abusive bullies (often the rare bully child and parent combine efforts). After a few years in club soccer, I know that there are certain circumstances where a parent needs to remove a child from a deeply damaging situation. LabanLB, I do not know you or the journey of your child/children. If you have experience in the sport as a parent - your opinion will garner respect if you share the years you have been a parent in club soccer and the ages of your children. You present a challenging question for all parents. Upon what do you base your opinion? Have you had one or more children stay when you knew the experience would be difficult/challenging/toxic/and or growing? Where are you coming from?
 
To all the parents looking to switch their ulittle to another team before the season is over, good job teaching your kids to cur out before the season ends. It's freakin ulittle soccer not college soccer.

Yo, ulittle's coach. These parents have no ethics. Sad! Think of the children!
I guess you need to find some new privates...oops, I mean starters for your team
since they are all leaving now. Real nasty those parents. Shame!!! ;)
 
Sometimes it is just better to leave. The only loyalty that you need to have is to your own child. Unfortunately 95% of all clubs/coaches will do whatever is in their best interest. Do what is in your player's best interest especially at the younger ages. They are the most critical. If my daughter had stayed on her first club team I doubt that she would be playing D1 soccer now and clearly not because of her ability.

I pulled my player from her first club team 2 weeks into the league season due to the coach not holding up her end of the bargain. I told all the parents and that coach a month ahead of time if things don't change we weren't going to wait until the season ended and that they would be giving us a full refund. We got the refund, she moved to a team in the same division and proceeded to kick her old teams a$$ the couple of times that they played them that year.

I'm sure the coach was happy to see you gone.
 
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